the first step to fixing anything is figuring out what is broken and it really doesn't matter who is responsible (unless you need to go through the process of accepting responsibility and forgiving and in that case, make it quick, will ya?), what matters most honesty, openly accepting what is, and then doing what needs to be done to make it better...
gee wiz, that's so cold and clinical... mr. spock would be proud... dr. spock, however, might raise an eyebrow... dr. suess, on the other hand, would probably be amused and write a brilliant rhyming children's story with strange illustrations and a cleverly disguised profound moral lesson that you learned as you laughed, or something like that...
naturally dr. suess is my first choice...
